Monday, May 2, 2011

A Living Will

Do you have one? Rich and I have been discussing getting serious and making sure we have our wishes spelled out. We have had extra incentive to do it since someone we know that was our age died after a brief illness and she had some moments where she was not able to make decisions about her care. I won't lie, since Terri has passed away I have been a little obsessed with death. I am not afraid of dying but her life was parallel to mine in so many ways that I think it jolted me into thinking what if it was me? Her boys are exactly our boys age, she and her husband were just starting down that road where they were getting to know each other again after raising kids, maybe looking ahead to grand kids someday, and generally taking a sigh of relief for a moment after all the flurry of teens and what that involves.
It may seem like a somber subject but I don't want Rich or the kids to have to make the decision about how I remain alive if I am not able to make that decision for myself. I took some time yesterday to spell it out and I really do feel a sense of relief. It is best to get it notarized and make sure your doctor has a copy as well as the person you appoint as your representative because apparently it is more likely to be honored.
I hope that it is never needed but I know that at least I have my wishes spelled out on my terms.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

i will honor your wishes babe ! love you